“We don’t reach the light through endless analysis of the dark. We reach the light by choosing the light. Light means understanding and through understanding we are healed”
A Course in Miracles
How amazing is that quote? And how well timed too.
I have a perpetual calendar that has the dates but not the days on and so I get to use it every year, receiving its wisdom if and when I choose to listen! This last one gave me chills. It was the insight for June 14th the day I came back from a recent jaunt to Sydney that completely shifted my opinion on emotional clearing and mastery!
You may have read my blog post last week about The Grandma Messages. How inspired is that, eh? My good friend Deborah Battersby came up with the notion and allowed me to share it on my blog so we can all spread the messages of validation and empowerment to those we love and care about. Hope you’re doing it? If not, it’s not too late! When would NOW be a great time to start?
Now they say that there are no such things as coincidences, and that events are not random or accidental, so how cool was it that Deb was on a rare visit to Australia last weekend and as a result of touching base again invited me to her EmMatrix workshop. I had NO idea beforehand what the course was about or what we would cover, but I AM a serial workshop and seminar junkie as you might have gathered by now, (which is not to say I’m not discerning and I only move my butt for something or SOMEONE really worthwhile); so I was delighted at the prospect of spending time with and learning something life transforming from Deb.
Deb is an amazing Human Being. She’s been a role model, friend and mentor to me for quite some time since I met her in her capacity as a Tony Robbins Master Trainer in 2001 at my very first Robbins event. She is awesome in the true sense of the word: a skilled coach, a ‘pattern recognition specialist’ and a facilitator for massive and lasting change, so I set off for Sydney with great excitement (and a certain amount of trepidation!) last weekend not knowing what lay ahead, yet excited at the prospect of transformation not only in my own life but potentially in the lives of people I work with and influence too! I had no idea what to expect other than something life changing for sure. Hence my excitement and my trepidation!
I’ve always wondered why it is that in spite of participating in every workshop, seminar and process known to modern man, I still sometimes feel like there’s something missing in a way; and despite learning and growing with each new insight, nonetheless I wonder not exactly ‘what’s wrong’ but from a certain perspective, why I don’t seem to have ‘cracked the code’ yet? Life’s great, don’t get me wrong, and I’m doing all the ‘right’ stuff like the Gratitude Journals and the visualizing and the magnetizing, but I’ve still sometimes been feeling like there’s something I’ve not been ‘getting’. Could it be that I’ve been laboring under an illusion and not seeing something blindingly obvious? Have I been looking at things the ‘wrong’ way?
Well after years of working on myself, I’m happy to announce I feel like I’ve finally found the missing link! Which is that there are no such things as ‘negative’ emotions! 
Yes, I know! We’ve all accepted as gospel that we shouldn’t feel so-called ‘negative’ emotions, beliefs and patterns and yet we all do….frequently…. and with no end in sight despite working hard on ourselves to BECOME BETTER. And when we do experience them, we think we’re doing something ‘wrong’, so we try to camouflage them, hide them, deny them, repress them, not talk about them or simply pretend they aren’t there. With the result that all that denial has created what can only be described as a conflicting ‘push – pull’ effect that try as we might always seems to be working against us. As if life weren’t challenging enough without doing what we have all come to label ‘sabotage’.
We end up feeling stressed, experience actual physical pain and dis-ease, sudden, seemingly meaningless, unprovoked and often violent waves of emotion that can wreak havoc on our relationships, work or career and prevent us from experiencing our natural intrinsic power, fulfillment and joy which is every human being’s true nature. And all of that because we seem to be expending massive amounts of energy in holding back the tide of emotions rather than embracing our feelings and integrating them by accepting and making friends with them.
Yes, I agree that this is pretty radical thinking but bearing in mind that the system we have all been following for years doesn’t seem to have worked out for us all that well, wouldn’t it perhaps be time to change our thinking on all this? EmMatrix does.
Let’s put it another way. Would you agree that our body has inherent wisdom and intelligence to regulate its temperature, circulate our blood, replace our cells, digest our food, breathe, reproduce and even grow our hair and finger nails? And that it performs trillions of functions simultaneously without our having to intervene or manage anything….(thank goodness or we’d probably forget something vital and mess it all up!) So what if the Emotional System was actually working exactly as it should, and that it was in the INTERPRETATION of its intention and purpose that we were getting our wires crossed?
Abraham talks a lot about our Emotional Guidance System and likens those ‘negative’ feelings to radar or a GPS helping us to discern when we have strayed away from our Source and cut ourselves off from Truth. But what if we took it one step further and as Deborah maintains, acknowledged that whatever we are feeling is absolutely perfect and as it should be, and that every emotion, belief and feeling in fact has a message for us and always has our best interest at heart. Novel concept, eh?
The emMatrix™ System has the power to transform your perception of ‘negative’ emotions (like fear, frustration, anger, overwhelm, incompetence, unworthiness, doubt, procrastination and any others you care to think of . . .) and turn them on their head as you get to understand why you should appreciate, say “thank you” and learn from them, releasing and replacing them with feelings of confidence, peace, joy, fulfilment and quite frankly any darn emotion that feels good!
If you’d like to hear more about the emMatrix™ System click here.
In working with the Law of Attraction I have learned to focus on ‘feel better thoughts’ but over and over again I’ve encountered my own and my clients’ limiting beliefs popping up all over the place like a ceiling against which we continually bump our heads. Yes, there are many meditations, visualizations and processes such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) one can use to work them through but the emMatrix™ System appears to do this in one short sharp session which cuts the roots of limitation and negativity for good. 
In the workshop I saw Deb work with a ‘guinea pig’ invited in for the purposes of the demonstration who knew NOTHING in advance about what she was letting herself in for. This young lady had suffered for years with chronic neck and lower back pain, migraine and headaches and severe stress. We watched as Deb ‘interviewed’ the parts in the young lady’s body and asked them about their higher purpose and intentions. In a matter of less than an hour the girl had drastically lessened her sensations of anxiety, pain and stress ~ not to mention gain massive insight into the positive attributes, strengths and learnings her so called ‘negative’ emotions had equipped her with as permanent life skills. When the ‘negative’ emotion leaves the body, its legacy is always the strengths and attributes it came to instill; and even if the emotion or pattern rears its ugly head again in the future at some point, there has been a permanent and irreversible shift in perception about it.
Last night I tried out the same technique on my friend Sue who has had agonizing ankle pain for almost 20 years. I can’t claim that she is ‘cured’ but the pain is down from a level 8/10 to about a 3 or 4 today and getting less as the day progresses. Needless to say she is delighted and enlightened by the messages her ankle pain, (Joe) had to share with her!
I am a born sceptic. It’s been part of my own personal matrix for years… yet it’s helped me find my own truth and sense of self when I’ve listened to it and not let it get carried away by being over zealous! I confess that sometimes it’s a muscle that’s been a tad overused and this is where the emMatrix™ System becomes so influential. When you overwork any muscle at the gym you can end up looking a bit top heavy or get sore. When you go overboard with an emotional muscle the gift your emotion came to share with you can become overdeveloped and disproportionate too, masking the gift and turning it into a curse; while all our attempts to repress and control it make it feel even more intense.
Sceptical until proven otherwise I am, but this technique beggars belief! 100% of the interventions we did on each other in class were beyond successful, for emotional issues, limiting beliefs as well as for physical pain. I’m certainly going to use it in my practice as a way of clearing the dead wood and cutting old roots from branches and undergrowth that restrict me and my clients from becoming the radiant prosperous beings we all are!


Sandhan, great blog! Thanks for sharing Deb’s amazing work. I also believe the emMatrix is brilliant, not to mention, one of the best tools in my coaching toolbox. That’s why I’m so proud to have helped launch her very 1st certification seminar. Now that we know this information, it is up to us to help spread the word…and you’ve done a terrific job of that with this blog. Congrats.
Wow! Thanks Dave.. I have no idea how you made it to this blog but thanks for your kind comments and noticing me!!
Love to connect so hope it’s alright to email you?
Yeah, there is only NOW. As you realize your chattering, you have stopped it and so you can rejoice. So there is only rejoycing! And since now is all-that-is, if you want to you can change your story and say that you’ve been experiencing joy al of your life! cool isn’it it?
Thank you for sharing,
Francesco
Well actually Francesco that would be all very nice in an ideal world but in fact I disagree… it would be wonderful if it were that simple… and I certainly agree that dwelling on a problem or issue is not a healthy thing but we do unfortunately all have beliefs and stories and patterns we run… many of them unconsciously.
Being in the now is wonderful provided we are not in denial and have nothing which blocks the flow.. perhaps you are able to realise your full potential but in my experience many people are slowed down in the progress by limitations which they then try to repress because they feel they should not feel them… and the cycle goes around and around…
My point is that to become integrated we need to accept ALL of our moods, feelings and emotions with out judgement… rather than living on the land of ‘sugar and spice and all things nice’!!
Reality always reflects your thinking and The only way to create and ideal world/attitude is to starting now to accept it as a truth…there can be many ways, one is forgetting about your thoughts through meditation another one is by telling youself that you already are what you wanna be and that Yes, all things are nice and have always been nice, because they brought you were you are now, in a place of expanded awareness where you can start again in the way that you prefer.
And sometimes thinking ‘feel better thoughts’ are regrettably interrupted by deep unconscious thoughts, beliefs and patterns which we need help to shift so that we can become aware of them and move beyond them… not everyone is able to just ‘trick’ their mind by repeating stuff over and over again and force themselves to believe it… although that certainly does help.
In this post I am addressing a swift process to take that stuff out at the roots effortlessly, gracefully, painlessly and surgically! And explaining how the first step is to change the way we think of our less pleasant emotions and learning to see their value and their gifts….
I am soooo looking forward to talking to you this more, Sandhan! Negative emotions that have not been processed properly are the primary source of physical problems in most of my clients. I would love yet another tool in my toolbox to help people!
Well, you will have chance to experience it this week and the good news is that Deb is running a workshop next month in Hawaii..
Hi Sandhan,
Greetings my friend and what a great privilege it was to spend a weekend together in Sydney learning Debbie Battersby’s brilliant and unique approach to emotions. Considering we, as human beings, indulge in emotions virtually every moment of our waking day, isn’t it great to have this totally new perspective on the role they play in our psyche. EmMatrix has completely changed my approach to coaching … another tool yes and a precision instrument of elegance and simplicity.
Loved spending the time with you, as always,
Pat
Thanks for stopping by and commenting Pat!
Its only now that I have done a few sessions with Emmatrix that i really get to grips with how unbelievably powerful it is!
Do you remember Lise from one of the DVD’s? I just gave her a session for her cancer and it was MIND-BLOWING what unfolded.
She was blown away as was I…
and isn’t it as you so rightly say, both elegant and simple.
Great to connect with YOU as always XXXX
Thanks for this post, thanks for spreading the positivity of emotions
I love it
I will check out your friends link
many blessings and be well with love and light and positive feelings and emotions
Jeremy
Dear Sandhan,
You write so beautifully… I just think you are amazing! I just loved reading your post and finding out about Deb and emMatrix…
I would love to learn more..
Let’s chat soon,
nathalie
Great post Sandhan and I may be interested in having a session with you. Love to hear more about this technique….
In gratitude,
Nancy
Nancy Shields recently posted…YOU CAN’T SOLVE A PROBLEM WITH THE SAME MIND THAT CREATED IT…
It would be my honour and my pleasure, Nancy… working with girlfriends I’v made on the net and elsewhere is how I love to spend my time…do add me to skype sandhan50 and I can explain more as it’s pretty hard to do it in the written word… to be honest it’s simply something you have to experience!
Whenever you like… XXX