They have the Power to Shape your Destiny!!
So by now you know how much importance I place upon the power of asking quality questions, the need to think ‘feel better thoughts’ and understanding why we all do what we do (think the 6 Human Needs).
But isn’t it time you knew exactly what’s triggering you to feel good, what’s triggering you to feel not so good and how to get a handle on it once and for all?
So many things have power as you have been reading over the last few weeks… prayer has power, truth has power and now let’s look at the way in which your words have power. If you want to be a powerful creator and have influence over your own destiny, as well as living a harmonious and balanced life, you will need to become skilled in all of the above but right now let’s get more familiar with the incredible power of our habitual language.
Instead of always reacting automatically to the words and language of others or responding unconsciously to the voices in our heads conditioned by our early childhood past, wouldn’t it be amazing to learn how to use your language more consciously and transform your vocabulary once and for all?
It’s just a question of practising this new habit and repeating it often until it becomes a new one. ~ Ain’t that the truth with everything I’m teaching you? It’s ALWAYS ALL about creating better habits and tendencies if you’re looking to transform the quality of your whole life!
Isn’t it curious how two people can have completely different experiences of Life based upon the labels they put on the event or feeling. One person can say an incident is a “real drama” while another person might describe the same episode as “mildly disturbing”… One person might view the demise of a relationship as the end of everything they feel safe and secure about and feel utterly depressed while someone else will feel exhilarated by the new beginning.
Yet another person might feel exhilarated by having to appear on stage in front of a large audience while someone else might feel immobilised by incapacitating stage fright. But nevertheless the feeling they are experiencing in their bodies will be pretty similar.
Just a single word can powerfully shape the way you feel and as a result the experiences you enjoy or endure, so the words we choose are more than just important; they are crucial. They form the source of our human language and are for the most part how we communicate with one another. But what about how we communicate with ourselves? Here our choice of words becomes even more significant because they reinforce our beliefs and even our ‘reality’. If you want to transform the way you experience your life, a simple thing you can learn to do is to watch your language and you will immediately begin to think ‘feel better thoughts’ and consequently feel better almost at once! Since all words carry vibration then it is obvious that we should choose words whose vibration elevates our mood rather than making us feel bad.
Here are two basic exercises you can experiment with:
1. Increase the intensity of your habitual positive emotions
2. Lower the intensity of your habitual negative emotions
Think of all the words you use regularly to describe how you’re feeling. I have one friend who whenever I ask him how he’s feeling frequently replies “good” or “alright”… but I have been educating him to expand his repertoire and now he tells me he’s feeling “ wonderful” or “incredible” or “excellent”, even if he has to pretend a bit until he catches up with the word he’s used!
1. So let’s start by writing down 3 words that you use often to describe your experience in a positive way and then find 3 replacement words that magnify your positive emotions.
So like my friend you might habitually say fine but instead use the words incredible, fantastic and amazing.
Or happy might become blissful, ecstatic or joyful
Lucky might become blessed, appreciative or grateful… get the idea? If everything is energy, and all energy is vibration, then all words also possess different vibrations. Just say the word “nice” out loud followed by the word “unbelievable.” Don’t they FEEL completely different in your body as you articulate them? This is on account of their different vibrational quality. So if you want to feel better feelings it stands to reason that all you have to do is choose to utter words that have higher vibrations associated with them! Doesn’t this make absolute sense?
2 Now let’s do the opposite and lessen the power of your habitual negative emotions.
Write down 3 words that you use regularly to describe your negative emotions or experiences and find alternative words or phrases that have a LESSER intensity or vibrational frequency.
Angry might become irritated or annoyed or to use a Tony Robbins-ism… peeved!!
Overwhelmed could become busy or active or even creative!
Depressed might become having a bad hair day, a bit off or under the weather.
A problem might become an opportunity, a challenge or simply a growthful experience!
Can you see how swapping one word for another of lesser emotional charge will alter the whole way we not only focus on events but as a result how we experience those life events based on the meanings we have attached to them? So how would your life look if you were to take all of the negative emotions you ever feel and lower their intensity so that they didn’t influence you so violently with the result that you are always in control of the feelings you feel?
In my role as a Law of Attraction coach, I am relentlessly reminding my friends and clients to choose their words wisely. It is perhaps the area upon which I place the most emphasis, knowing what a profound impact this alone can have on shaping a life. The words we choose, whether spoken out loud or only echoed in the recesses of our minds, tell us a lot about our real feelings and beliefs. To some extent they also form the messages we’re sending out to the Universe, which are then reflected back to us as what materializes in our experience.
If our words contradict our stated requests then we may be disillusioned when we continue manifesting things we don’t want.
Case in point: Your stated desire is to have a sexy body by the summer, yet every time you look in the mirror you grimace and comment on how unfit and overweight you are. And when you go shopping you whine to your friends how you never look good in anything. So what message do you think this is sending out to the Universe? (Hint – it’s not “I love my body and I’d like help to get in shape for the beach this summer!”)
It’s quite straightforward: the Universe responds most powerfully to the constant stream of data you put out.
So if you put out one request about having a beach ready body while the other millions of words are about how awful you look, do not be surprised if the Universe responds by giving you more of what it thinks you want – to look bad!
So how do you transform this? The first step is to be vigilant about the words you use, especially when talking to yourself. You will need to become super conscious of your negative self talk and monitor yourself all day long until you get into a new pattern of language. If your words aren’t supporting you then its time to come up with some new phrases and stories about what it is you want.
It’s all in your words and language, so make sure you choose helpful and transformational ones.
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